How to Write Your Wedding Vows

How to Write Your Wedding Vows

Writing your own wedding vows is a deeply personal and wonderful way to express your love and commitment. To get started, think about the qualities you love and admire most in your partner and the wonderful ways they make your life better. Then, consider the promises that you want to make to them and the kind of future you want to build together. 

Then consider the tone and style. Do you want your vows to be traditional, romantic, serious, light-hearted or funny?

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Photographed by Citlalli Rico Photography - Riviera Maya, Mexico photographers 

Once you have some ideas jotted down, start by writing a rough draft of what feels right and authentic for you. Don't worry too much about making it perfect at this stage - you can always revise and edit later. As you write, imagine your partner listening and try to be as specific and personal as possible. Avoid using generic phrases or cliches, and focus on what makes your feelings unique.

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Photographed by F10 Studio - Toronto, Canada photographers 

Once you have a draft of your vows, organize them and think about the flow, then read them out loud to see how they sound. You can also practice in a mirror or ask a trusted friend to give you feedback. If it will make you feel better to share your vows before your ceremony, talk to your partner and see how they feel. If you both agree you can help each other with the style, length, and content.

When you settle on the right words for your vows, write them down and practice them multiple times before you go to the altar. Otherwise print them on a beautiful sheet of paper and read them at your ceremony.

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Photographed by Joe Payne Photography - North Carolina wedding photographers 

In order to make your vows especially unique, try personalizing them by incorporating elements of your relationship and individual personalities. For example, you could include inside jokes, meaningful moments, or specific promises that are relevant to the two of you. You can also write about your favorite memories and the things you are looking forward to doing and creating in your new life together. Other personal touches include incorporating poetry, song lyrics, or your own creative elements. 

Poems are a particularly romantic way to express your love and can speak for you, especially if you want to say what’s in your heart without the challenge of writing. Here are 5 of our favorites. 

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Photographed by Adventure Instead - Colorado adventure, wedding and elopement photographers

When it comes to how long to make your vows, between one minute and five minutes is the average. However, the length is totally up to you as it is more important to make them heartfelt than to worry about the timing. Some people choose to keep their vows short and sweet, while others prefer to make them more detailed and expressive. Ultimately, the length of your vows should be whatever feels best to you.


Good luck and best wishes for a fun and memorable wedding day. 

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