Wedding Toasts - Do's and Don'ts

Wedding Toasts - Do's and Don'ts

Knowing how to make the perfect toast can always come in handy no matter where or when. However, when it comes to your chance to speak at a wedding you must know how to make it work. 

Here are ten things you should do and not do when it comes to making a wedding toast.

Groomsmen waits to toast the wedding couple - photo by Andrew Billington
Groomsmen waits to toast the wedding couple - photo by Andrew Billington

The Five Do’s

  1. Do create a toast to congratulate the couple and make them feel loved. Make your comments complimentary and as heartfelt as you can. 
     
  2. Do practice your speech beforehand with friends. Have your thoughts memorized and well thought out before you take the microphone. If you are telling jokes be sure they are funny, and if you’re going to get mushy be sure it’s not too much.
     
  3. Do keep your comments between 1 and 5 minutes max. You want to make your toast longer than “Cheers” and shorter than the time it takes to lose people’s attention.
     
  4. Do focus on why the couple is good together and how you look forward to being part of their lives in the future.
     
  5. Do remember to ask everyone to raise their glasses at the end. Close with an ending that is quick and sweet like; "May you both live as long as you want, and never want as long as you live." 
Couple laughing with joy during wedding toast - photo by Kanayo Adibe
Couple laughing with joy during wedding toast - photo by Kanayo Adibe - D.C.
Bride cries sweet tears during wedding toast - photo by Rich Howman - England
Bride cries sweet tears during wedding toast - photo by Rich Howman - England
Hilarous photo of bride laughing and groom hiding during toast by Kirth Bobb - D.C. photographer
Hilarous photo of bride laughing and groom hiding during toast by Kirth Bobb - D.C. 
Friends raise a glass to couple during wedding toast - photo by D2 Photography
Friends raise a glass to couple during wedding toast - photo by D2 Photography - Italy

The Five Don’ts

  1. Don’t ever share secrets or stories that will embarrass your hosts or friends.
     
  2. Don’t talk about yourself or what you’ve done to help the couple in the past or during the wedding. 
     
  3. Don’t talk about sex, politics, or anything inappropriate or divisive.
     
  4. Don’t pass the mic! Whatever you do, don’t call on others unless you’ve been asked to. Nothing is worse than a great set of prepared speeches that end on a sour note.
     
  5.  And don’t drink straight from the bottle - only a bride or groom can get away with that!
Bride drinking straight from champagne bottle at wedding table - photo by Dan O'Day - Austrailia
Bride drinking straight from champagne bottle at wedding table - photo by Dan O'Day - Australia

Go forth and make your friends smile. We're wishing you wit, charm, and good timing!

 

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